Does everyone have a dark side?


Guest Writer Steve Monz, Afternoons on Cool 101.3

So this week Bill Cosby was on television being sentenced for 3 to 10 years in prison. I won’t go into details, I think we all know the story. In the era of #metoo…I constantly think about where we have gone wrong as a society. I don’t think it is as widespread as the media would like you to think. Today or 30 years ago there have been people of “questionable character”. I think that is the nice way of putting it. Men like Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby have always existed. Always will in my opinion. Classic “Good vs Evil” will never go away. It’s about control and power. “The Dark Side.”

I know that inside all of us is the primeval instinct to survive. But the civilized learn how to control the desire to conquer and dominate. I give all of the credit for my civilized thought to James Bond and John Wayne. I hope you chuckled….but it’s true. When I was a kid there were three times when my Dad would allow me to stay up past my bedtime. James Bond Movies, John Wayne Movies and whenever Muhammad Ali was boxing. Without question I learned how to be a gentleman by watching James Bond and John Wayne. In every movie the two giants of the screen went above and beyond to hold women in the highest regard. Sure, you can make a case that both have their outdated politically incorrect moments, but across the board they treated members of the opposite sex with the utmost respect. Holding doors, pulling out chairs and pure chivalry. I picked up on that and was aware enough to know that the negative stuff was for the movie. Schtick if you will. As for Muhammed Ali, well he was a showman and a class act in my opinion. I didn’t care for the violence of boxing, but I did appreciate the physical effort and showmanship.

And growing up I think we all saw Bill Cosby as a father figure or grandfather figure to some degree.
I am blown away by the fact that he has such a dark side. Harvey Weinstein on the other hand, you could kinda see that one comin’. Typical power hungry Hollywood executive casting couch type.
Maybe I am naïve, but I feel like everyone has the ability to do the right thing and be good. Somewhere along the line our rational thought becomes skewed. Maybe people have been mean to us and in turn we act mean to others. Kind of like a mistreated dog. Or maybe it is simply a money and power thing. Some people get so much they feel they are untouchable. Do whatever they want. We are learning now in 2018 that no one is above the law. Who knows what celebrities will be revealed next.

If we look deep down inside and be honest with ourselves I think we each have a dark side. Thoughts that we keep to ourselves. I suppose it is natural and normal. To understand good vs evil, I think you have to experience good vs evil. It’s the understanding that our dark side can’t take over. I suppose that is the key. We all have our faults and we all have our vices in life. It’s controlling them that makes us civilized. Movies, sports figures and now social media have the opportunity to educate us with what is right and what is wrong.

The best way to make sure that we continue to evolve into the best humans we can be, is by being a good example to the next generation of what it means to be a good member of society. Maybe that is through movies, sports, or the internet. Or maybe, just maybe… it’s about each of us doing our part. We need to get back to following our gut and do what is “Right”. Don’t follow what social media says you should be. Do what is right. If that means paying it forward and buying a coffee for the person behind you at the coffee shop, or holding the door for a complete stranger, DO IT! It’s how we take back control in a good way and become the people our parents always wanted us to be. The Dark Side is a thing. Don’t let it win.

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